You have finally reached it: the end of a seemingly endless day when every obstacle imaginable dropped right in front of you. And right when your head is about to hit the pillow, you realize it was too soon to celebrate. “Mommy! I didn’t make it to the potty!”
This was me … on more than one occasion.
And when I looked around at other women I know, I began to wonder why I had been left out when perfect lives were being distributed.
Oh, I know it’s not true. Nobody has the perfect life. But when your world is looking pretty dreary, it sure seems like the sun is shining brighter on everyone else but you.
Has this happened to you? How do you keep yourself from such gloom?
Recount Your Blessings
There are blessings in your life. Really. Did you know that the Bible even tells us to “consider it all joy when you encounter various trials” (James 1:2)? When you begin to see how a trial is your teacher, how suffering produces strength, and how hardship brings hope, you will experience blessings.
Resolve to Find the Good
If you still find it hard to count your blessings, I challenge you to dig a little deeper. Find at least one thing good, no matter how small. The more you look for these little nuggets each day, you will realize you have filled a storehouse of priceless treasures.
Reach Out to Others
Perhaps the life of the person next door seems so perfect because you have not actually stepped in her shoes, let alone stood outside her door. If we reach out to others, we can find those who can encourage us in our difficulties, but we may also learn that they’re not so perfect after all. Moreover, you will have gained a friend, who knows exactly what you’re going through and help you bear your burdens.
Realize You Need Both Sunshine and Rain
You may be in the midst of a storm, but one day, the sun will break through. And, you will see clearly enough to help out that person over there, who is now caught in a fierce gale. Don’t waste the lessons you are learning in your trials right now. You may have an opportunity to help someone else down the road.
So before you start playing the comparison game, ask yourself what your definition is of the perfect life. You may think it is beyond your reach, but that mom, who seems to have it all together, does not possess it either. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, rejoice in what is in your grasp and make the most of it.
How do you keep yourself from getting caught in the comparison trap?
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