“Sweetie, I want to have another baby.”
Whoa! That’s a loaded statement for some couples and ought to be followed by some serious discussion.
Determining the when, where, and how of important conversations with your husband is going to require some skill and foresight. How many times have I started talking with my husband about a weighty issue only to feel frustrated because I didn’t wait for the right moment!
So, if you need to have a heart-to-heart with the hubby, don’t do it during these times.
When He’s Watching TV or Reading
It’s obvious you don’t have his undivided attention during this time, so don’t even try. But, if it is an issue you really need to discuss, respectfully ask him if he can pause from his activity to have a talk with you.
When You’re About to Sleep
This is classic, right? You turn off the lights, kiss each other good night, and at the exact instance that your husband is about to enter deep sleep mode, you tap him on the shoulder because you have a pressing issue that just needs to be resolved at that moment. Unless, you hear an intruder in the next room, the matter can probably wait.
When He Just Gets Home From Work
As soon as my husband walks through the door, everyone is clamoring for his attention. Not only would I be competing with my children, but my husband just needs time to settle his mind. At the very least, we need to give the man a chance to change out of his work clothes.
When You Have to Do It Via Text Messages
Smart phones may be the current trend of our times, but a good talk needs to happen the old-fashioned way. And while you’re putting that phone down, you may want to turn it off to avoid being distracted by your Facebook alert.
When the Kids are Around
They may seem to be totally engrossed in their newest toy, but kids hear. Don’t underestimate the little ones too. So, be careful what you say around them. If it needs to be a private conversation, wait until they go to bed.
When You’re at a Party
There are way too many distractions when you’re at a party, and there’s a high likelihood that your conversation will get interrupted, making it awkward for everyone.
When One of You is Driving
Some people can have serious talks while driving, but I really think that it would be too distracting for the driver. Not to mention the fact that you’re not really making eye contact with each other. You may as well be both looking down at your phones while having the conversation.
When You Just Had a Fight
After a fight, I’m not one that can handle the silent treatment for very long, but I need to make sure there is ample time for both of us to simmer down. Otherwise, the attempt at having a serious dialogue will erupt into another fight instead of ending in a resolution.
If it’s a conversation that needs to happen, take special care before you begin.
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