Twice, I remember having to go to detention after school. The first time was because I was trying to push away a boy that was bothering all the girls in line. I was doing it for a good cause, but I was too timid to make my defense. The second time was because I threw a ball after the recess bell rang. Did I learn anything from staying 30 minutes in an almost empty classroom and writing “I will not throw the ball after the bell” 100 times? Perhaps. I don’t recall ever breaking that particular rule again.
That was pretty much my criminal record during my school days. I was a goody-goody. I was never suspended … until now. Let me explain.
I had joined a Facebook Mommy Blogger Group, and it was great meeting other fellow bloggers. Introductions were made. We exchanged website addresses and swapped “likes”. And, this was when I was blindsided with a message on my screen, “You have been temporarily blocked.” What did I do wrong? I really had no idea.
Lesson 1: Be Slow on Facebook
Apparently, I was “liking” pages too fast. When I had a 5-minute window to use the computer before my kids woke up from dreamland, liking too fast was something I had to do to avoid the nightmare of a rough morning start. So, learn from my mistake if you’re on Facebook: if you do any activity at a rate which Facebook considers fast, you may get dinged.
Lesson 2: Better Understanding of a “Like” … or Not
When I was young, I remember wanting to give that one Valentine’s card that says “I like you” to the boy I had a crush on. “Like” had a particular meaning in that context. But throughout my adolescent years, that word became even more confusing. “Do you like-like him or like him?”
In social media, “like” can have so many different meanings. It can mean I read it, I agree with it, I want you to like me back, or I like it. So when you receive a “like”, how do you know which one it is? It’s like being 13 years old all over again, but this time, it’s not about the cute boy sitting in front of you in class.
Now, I’m not saying I’m going to start withholding “likes”. I still like liking. It’s a busy mom’s friend … when I read a post, sometimes there’s just not enough time to give a good response. So a friendly “like” will have to do.
Lesson 3: Build Your Connections With Real Conversation
Eventually, Facebook gave me back some of the privileges, except using the “like” button. And you know, liking is nice, but commenting is where connections really happen. Sure, it takes time and more thought, but you are also more likely to remember that person and their post.
Let’s get out of cyberspace for a second, and think about when you meet someone for the first time. If you say nothing more to them than “Pleased to meet you”, you will probably forget who they are in the next minute or so. But, if you ask more questions and engage in a conversation with them, you will be more inclined to talk to them again the next time you see each other.
Lesson 4: Bloggers Want Nice Comments
Sometimes social media just doesn’t feel very social. Though you are broadcasting tweets, posting pictures, and publishing pieces, you wonder if anyone really reads or looks at them, especially if the response you get is silence. If you are a blogger, I know you would agree that receiving comments just makes your day. One of the things that keeps me going are receiving the comments from you.
So don’t be shy, after clicking “like”, send a nice comment or two. It may be just what that person needs today.
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