When Your Dreams Take a Different Turn

I want to thank Melissande from Our Growing Roots for starting this link-up of Transparent Tuesday. The internet is not lacking in blog posts that show the best in our own little world, whether it’s a recipe, a craft project, or family time at the park. But, we all know these are just select snapshots, and often we’ll discard the pictures that don’t quite portray our world in the best light.

But, isn’t your heart also drawn to things that show life as it really is? I wanted to join this link-up to show you that life isn’t always picture perfect (or blog perfect). In fact, life appears real messy sometimes, like an artist’s palette, but just wait. In due time, God will unveil His masterpiece.


There’s a pile of papers waiting for me to look through. They’re not bills that need to be paid. They’re not my kids’ schoolwork that need to be put away. They’re not letters that need to be opened.

They are papers given to us by a doctor, a specialist in speech pathology and audiology. Why would I have papers like these on my desk? Because one of my children was diagnosed with an auditory processing disorder. So now, we have some decisions to make about therapy, education, and how all of that will affect our whole family. Honestly, it all gets overwhelming sometimes. Hence, the papers remain untouched on that desk.

imageWhen a woman first realizes there is this life growing and thriving inside her, there are no limits to her dreams. She dreams of rocking that baby to sleep. She dreams of holding his hand and never letting go. She dreams of showing him the beauty of this world and its Creator. Those were my dreams.

They still are, but the path to each looks far different from what I had imagined. I did not picture doctors, therapies, treatments, psychological assessments, and special needs consultants. But they are there, and I must accept that and believe that even though it’s hard to see sometimes, God will make something beautiful out of this.


I imagine that you probably have something like this in your life. Something that has not turned out exactly the way you planned. Something that you feel is out of your control. May I encourage you to receive it, embrace it, and make the most of it.

There are really only two choices: despair or hope. I have been in despair. It is a dark, dark place and a paralyzing state. But, hope in God is what enables me to keep moving forward and pressing on despite the obstacles before me.

What do you choose?


It would be great if you can join the link-up at Melissande’s site. You can share a story, a picture, anything. The link-up went live on Tuesday but is open all week. Click here for more details and to read about what other bloggers have shared.

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16 thoughts on “When Your Dreams Take a Different Turn

  1. You beautifully express the hope of an honest, but thankful heart.
    Yes, we do tend to put our best forward and neglect to mention that which is not neat, tidy, and beautiful in physical eyes, and then fail to see what is truly beautiful, even though it is not what we expected.
    Your post is so encouraging. I’m praying for your family and hope you will continue to share your journey.
    Wishing you a beautiful day!

  2. Thank you for opening your heart here. It is not easy for anyone to do, and yet your story brings hope and strength.

    1. As bloggers, we know there’s a measure of risk when we open up ourselves a bit. But in doing so, I hope that someone out there can find encouragement.

  3. Wow. Thank you so very much for sharing this in such an open and heartfelt way. Those things that don’t go according to plan and seem messy at first are the things that I feel like God uses more than anything to refine us and make us the people that He *really* desires us to be. Prayers for you and your little one as you embark on this journey.
    I’m so thankful for your honesty.

    1. Thank you for your prayers, and thank you for starting the link-up. It’s a wonderful way for us to encourage each other.

  4. Thank you for being part of this link-up! I enjoyed learning more about your life. It sure is hard when physical issues surprise us, especially when it comes to our kids. My sons with their asthma – no fun at all, but we’re trusting God, aren’t we? ❤

    1. Yes. As hard as it is to go through, it is an amazing opportunity to trust God and grow our faith in Him.

  5. I think we all have “shattered dreams” when it comes to our children. Some are more serious than others. As a mother, I have had to move through stages of loss with serious issues with my children. I think it’s ok to mourn what we dreamed for and didn’t happen. In the end, acceptance will come and I do believe that often good things will result. Just the same, it is very hard to see one’s child suffer. The death of a child is something I cannot reconcile. Most unfortunately, this happens to some parents. Thank you for joining the link-up! You are helping moms more than you will ever know, Cate

  6. My child received an unexpected medical diagnosis at the age of two. It came as a complete surprise to us. I felt like I couldn’t breathe, like I’d been slapped in the face. This wasn’t the child I thought I had.

    Once the shock wears off, and you receive all the reports and recommendations you need, you can then make an action plan. You are your child’s best advocate, and I’m sure you will be an excellent one.

    And I was wrong to think that this wasn’t the child I thought I had. She is much, much more than I could have dreamed or hoped for, just in a different way than I had imagined.

    I wish you and your family all the best in this new challenge.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words! That’s exactly how I felt too when I first found out, like my world came crashing down. And, I struggled at first with blaming myself and trying to figure out what I did to cause it. When I got past that and moved on to acceptance, it got better, even though there are still many challenges ahead.

  7. What a beautiful thoughtful post. When I first started working with kids with special needs my boss showed me a poem, Going to Holland. It was about a woman who had planned a trip to Paris but ended up in Holland. After taking a moment to absorb the change she realized how beautiful Holland is. The destination is full of beauty even though the path there was changed.

    1. Oh what a beautiful picture! Life isn’t always what we planned, but often we realize we have received something better. Thank you for coming by! I remember you from the Mommy Blogger Group on FB. 🙂

  8. What a beautiful post! I just would like to encourage you as a mum moving forward with this “new” aspect to your family’s life. My sister was diagnosed with central auditory processing disorder when she was struggling in school at 6 years old. My mum was hands on getting her into a school with the most beneficial teachers who understood her condition. Through speech therapy, teachers who spent the time to go through information with her, and my sister has refused to let it affect her life. I am so very proud to say that she is graduating university on the Dean’s list for Honours in Criminology and is applying to do her Master’s as I am writing this! God is good and praying for you and your family!

    1. Thank you for sharing this amazing testimony of God’s work in your sister’s life! Now I know that getting connected with you was no accident. I needed to read this, as it is so tempting to lose hope for the future.

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