Blogs and social media have given people around the world the opportunity to connect in ways never before imagined. It has provided an outlet for many folks to express themselves where they would otherwise feel inhibited. But, is it really necessary for bloggers to share everything on their minds? Here are 5 reasons why I believe it isn’t.
Discretion is a virtue to be desired.
There’s a proverb in the Bible that says, “There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Proverbs 12:18) Having wisdom to know what to say, when to say, and how to say enables you to be a more effective communicator, both in the blogosphere and in your daily face-to-face interactions.
Self-editing is a skill in life, not just in blogging.
Most bloggers will edit their post before publishing. But, beyond checking for grammatical errors and typos, make it a habit to also check if you’ve just shared too much.
Tell me if this has ever happened to you. You’re in a conversation with a group of people. And, when you leave the party, you’re replaying the whole thing, all the while, kicking yourself for all the foolish things you said. Self-editing is definitely a life skill. Well, the plus side to blogging is that you have time to proofread before making a fool of yourself to the whole world.
Gossip is a dangerous poison.
I used to have a blog, where I posted anonymously. It was a journal type of blog, where I often wrote about my family, so privacy was a concern of mine.
There is a temptation, though, when you are writing anonymously or under a pseudonym, to gossip about or slander others. You can even change the names of the parties involved, and you may feel safe in saying negative things about them from behind the computer screen. But, the wounds from hurtful words sometimes never heal. And often, the damaged relationships go beyond just the immediate persons involved.
If you have a private conflict with someone, be aware that discussing it in a public blog will only escalate it.
Your face-to-face relationships may be impaired.
When I first began blogging, I would tell my husband about all the nice people that I was meeting through this site. He totally supports me in this and was happy that I was making some meaningful connections. But, he also reminded me not to neglect the wonderful friendships I have been blessed with. If I am developing worthwhile connections online, how much more meaningful should my relationships be offline?
Transparency is not the same as complete exposure.
To be transparent means having a willingness to open yourself up a bit. Part of the reason may be to help with processing your thoughts and emotions. But, the other part (and this is why you put it in a blog, and not in a diary) is to reach out to someone, who may also be in the same shoes.
I enjoy reading posts, where the writer gives you a window into her world, sharing both her triumphs and trials in life without necessarily disclosing everything. Just enough is shared that I am left saying, “That is exactly how I feel! I’m not alone!” That’s transparency!
Remember the 4 P’s
Anyone can start a blog and speak their mind. The possibilities seem endless. But, the next time you’re ready to unveil the next blog post … Pause and take a deep breath. Proofread but go deeper than checking for typos. Ponder if what you wrote is the best way to share with the world. And finally, you are ready to post.
What goes through your mind before you click “publish”?
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