As parents, we will fail … sometimes horribly. But, we don’t have to raise the white flag and surrender ourselves to failure. By identifying some of these wrong patterns, we can start taking steps toward raising our children rightly.
1. Resorting to Anger
Most children can tell by your tone of voice and body language if you are haboring anger towards them. If your child needs correction, but you feel your emotions starting to boil over, go slow. Send your child to the next room, so you can take the time to breathe and compose yourself before approaching them.
2. Avoiding Forgiveness
Sometimes, though, you just mess up and let out your full wrath on them. Been there, done that. But rather than allowing that wall to remain between you and your children, you can begin to knock down those bricks with forgiveness. Though it takes swallowing a huge slice of humble pie, asking your child for forgiveness, not only models for them the right way to resolve conflict, but assures them that the relationship has not been broken.
3. Letting Them Have Their Way
Let’s face it. Kids are persistent. If they don’t wear you down with their continual requests, you may find yourself just giving in to escape the temper tantrums. But be warned. Children that consistently get their way will face a rude awakening one day when they realize the world does not revolve around them. And, if they don’t learn, at an early age, how to submit to your authority, how can we expect them to heed other authorities in their future?
4. Failing to Follow Through
We can also fail to follow through on consequences to their disobedience. Perhaps we were being lazy, or our words were just threats to get them to outwardly comply, or we just completely forgot. But, if you say that their screaming at the store will be dealt with at home, you need to follow through. We can’t get frustrated when they don’t listen to us if all we give them are empty words.
5. Encouraging Delayed Obedience
I used to help out in a classroom, where “the count” was implemented to get the kids to quiet down. It’s funny because once you get to #2, you start including fractions (2 1/2, 2 3/4, 2 7/8). Many of us have probably employed this same tactic at home. But, all we’re really accomplishing is training our children that delayed obedience is ok. If my kid is running towards an oncoming car, I’m not going to say, “I’ll give you to the count of 3 to stop.” And though it’s not always a matter of safety, a child needs to learn to obey his parent without delay.
I’m preaching to myself here too because it’s so easy to get into wrong habits of parenting. But don’t grow weary. You will see the fruit of your labor in due time.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
Linking up to
SHINE Blog Hop
Click on the image below to vote for my blog.
One Click = One Vote
Note: Advertisements may sometimes appear at the end of each post. Less to More has no affiliation, direct or indirect, with these ads.