Before we started dating, my husband and I were already friends. I wanted to be more but had no clue if he was even interested in me in that way.
I confided in my sister that I liked him a lot and made her swear not to tell another soul. Little did I know at the time that my future husband also had a similar conversation with my brother-in-law. And, until everything was finally out in the open, my sister and her husband remained true to their promise and kept our secrets safe, even from each other.
When you are asked to guard a secret, do you follow through? Or is the tidbit of information just too juicy to keep to yourself? What are some things to keep in mind so that you prove yourself worthy of the trust that has been placed on you?
Remember what you’ve been entrusted with
Once, we were invited to have dinner with my husband’s boss. When we arrived at the restaurant, we were greeted by a sign “Valet Parking Only.” When we handed them the key, we were entrusting our car to them. We didn’t expect them to take it out for a joy ride. We just wanted them to keep it safe. When your friend shares a secret with you, it still belongs to her. You are simply being asked to keep it safe.
Remember the value of privacy
People sometimes pay a price for privacy, like paying a fee to get your information unlisted in public directories. But, really, its value can’t be quantified. Privacy is worth far more than any amount we can place on it. So, when you hold on to a friend’s confidence, you are holding on to something priceless.
Remember how fast gossip can spread
You might think it’s harmless to tell just one person, especially if that person is a good secret-keeper, but the best of them are still fallible. And, you know what I’ve observed? Private information received secondhand will probably not be so well guarded.
Remember how you want someone to handle your secrets
You would never want someone to broadcast intimate details of your life to the world. So, how could we be so careless about letting those confidential information slip out? Remember “The Golden Rule”.
Remember the treasure of a trusted friend
What a privilege you have to be someone’s confidant! A trusted friend is a rare treasure. Don’t trade in that shine for the dross of a broken confidence.
“He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets,
But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.”
Important Note: Someone may share with you something that you need to tell someone else. For example, you may not know how to advise them, but you know someone who can. Let your friend know you would like to tell so-and-so to seek some counsel. I’ve asked friends if it’s ok that I tell my husband because he’s had some experience with counseling others. Or perhaps, it’s a more serious issue, like the person may be physically abused. Encourage them to seek some professional help, and offer to go with them if they’re afraid.
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